When you go through a breakup, block them. It's not harsh.
In today's society you always see couples breaking up and getting back together. Social media always adds to relationship drama. When you break up with someone, it's hard to get away from them because you're still friends on Facebook, and you follow them on Twitter. BLOCK THEM. I know this is harsh, but if it wasn't for my ex (that I dated for 2 years) blocking me on Facebook, I'm sure that it would have taken me longer than it did to get over him. I wasn't constantly looking at his profile (come on ladies, we all do it). It was the best meanest thing that he had ever done to me because it allowed me to not think about him everyday like I used to. I didn't see him in person, and I didn't see him on Facebook. Time apart from them is good. Yes, it might get lonely, and it sucks, a lot. But before you get lonely and text them or creep, remember the bad times and the reason you broke up. Here's one quote that I love to reference when I talk about this:
No I am not saying that a relationship is never going to have ups and downs, but for the love of all that is good, that doesn't mean daily or weekly ups and downs. Some couples breakup and makeup all of the time like that's healthy. It's not. It's stress. Breaking up and getting back together only adds to the problems. Yes, we all have problems in relationships, but if you constantly are having them with your boo every day or every week, you might need to reevaluate your situation. If he keeps making the same mistakes, he's not going to change like he promises. I know that from personal experience. And you know what? No one should have to change for you. You shouldn't have to change for them. Crying every other day for three weeks is more than just not fun; it's mentally and physically exhausting. And not healthy.
The happiest you that you can be is yourself. Everything else falls into place after that.
This, ladies and gents, is the most important lesson I have learned. At the current moment, despite my allergies, I still feel a swelling happiness inside me when I think about my life. And it's all because I have been nothing but myself. This applies to every part of your life, not just relationships. I am not scared to admit that on a regular basis, I watch cat videos to laugh. Watching commercials is more fun to me than actually watching a show, and looking at advertisements are better than reading the magazines. That is me. Not only do my friends know it, but my boyfriend does.
What I cannot stress enough to someone is the fact that the person you choose to be with needs to love every part of you all the time. All of your faults. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about nine months, and we have gotten into maybe 3 arguments. Not fights, just arguments. We try to work things out instead of yelling about them. He has never tried to change me, and I would never try to change him. That's how it should be. I am not saying that this is meant to be or I'm going to get married, but I am happy now, and that's all that matters. I feel like I am in a wonderful healthy relationship, and that is because we communicate, we accept each other, and we want each other to be happy. I know that everyone deserves this. Not the stupid, breakup, makeup, crying, fighting, "but we love each other so much" crap that I see so much of.
